Master Varii – Frolicon 2019
(Note: there ARE others, definitions will sometimes vary, and people can, and usually do, identify in multiple ways)
Often Misunderstood Roles:
Top (Male or Female; scene specific, the “do’er”- Topping does not imply a power exchange relationship)
Bottom (Male or Female, scene specific, the “do’ee”- Bottoming does not imply a person is “submissive”)
Switch (may enjoy Top/bottom, or Dominant/ submissive roles depending on the situation and the relationship)
Primarily Dominant Roles:
Dominant (Of any gender)
Domme (Female Identified Dominant, still pronounced “Dom” not Dom-may)
Sir (Male Identified Dominant)- term of respect for a male dominant
Ma’am (Female Identified Dominant) – term of respect for a female dominant
Master (Male or Female usually implies either an M/s relationship, or a “Leather title”)
Mistress/Lady/Queen/ Goddess / etc. (Female Identified Dominant – self given because they like it)
Mommy/Daddy (Engaged in a Parent/little type authority transfer, may or may not include age play)
Primal Predator (likes rougher play, like biting etc., animalistic, and is a Top or Dominant)
Alpha (Pack Dominant)
FemDom (Shortened version of Female Dominant mostly used in the “fetish” community)
Dominatrix (Female Dominant, often a pro who charges for services, less used term these days)
Primarily Submissive Roles:
Submissive / Sub (male or female)
Slave (male or female, usually implies they are in, or desire, a Total Authority Transfer relationship)
Kajira (female slave, usually more formal and based on Gorean novels)
Little (Baby Girl, Baby Boy, Big, Little, Middle) – All ages, some relationships sexual, some nonsexual
Brat (a person who enjoys acting out and challenging authority to varying degrees. (playful sass to disrespectful)
Omega (Pack Submissive)
Pet (usually someone who likes “pet play”, but it can be a submissive who likes “little play”)
Primal Prey (likes rougher play, like biting etc., and is bottom or submissive, may also resist/fight back)
Sissy /Sissy Slut/ Sissy Maid (Cross dresser)
Other:
Sadist (enjoys, and is often aroused by, giving intense sensations some may define as painful)
Masochist (enjoys, and is often aroused by, receiving sensations frequently defined as painful)
Kinkster (likes kinky sex, no power exchange implied, “bedroom spice”)
Fetishist (primarily focused on one or more specific fetishes, usually a “role play” vs a power exchange)
Swinger (usually coupled and both consensually switch sexual partners)
Hedonist (“if it feels good do it”)
Exhibitionist (likes to be watched)
Voyeur (likes to watch others)
Sensualist (prefers softer, sensual play)
Rigger /Rope Top (Likes rope bondage. “Rigger” usually indicates someone who enjoys suspension but not always)
Rope bottom/ Rope bunny (Enjoys rope bondage as a bottom - likes being tied up)
Spanko /Spanker/ Spankee (enjoys spanking)
Cross Dresser (frequently a male who enjoys dressing in women’s clothing)
Princess (can be either Dominant or submissive, loves being spoiled and pampered, usually female)
Puppy/Kitten/Fox/etc (animal/or pet play)
Beta (Pack second in command)
Leather Man/ Leather Woman/ Leather Daddy, leather boy, leather girl, boi (part of the Leather Community)
Bootblack (someone who enjoys caring for leather)
cuckold, Cuckqueen, Bull (these usually exist together in a triad and is a specific fetish)
Evolving / Exploring / Undecided (kinky but not sure where they fit just yet, sometimes new, sometimes changing)
Dyke (A female identified person who is a lesbian and who prefers a more masculine appearance)
LGBTQIA (Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans, Queer, Intersex, Asexual (terms used for sexual orientation other than Het)
Lesbian (A female identified person who is sexually attracted to another woman)
Gay (A male identified person who is attracted to another man)
Bi-Sexual (Sexually attracted to both male and females and often needs both male and female energy)
Transgender (those who do not identify, or exclusively identify, with the sex assigned at birth)
Queer/Questioning (an umbrella term for all of those who are not heterosexual, cisgendered, or who are questioning their orientation)
Intersex (when a person has an indeterminate mix of primary and secondary sex characteristics)
Asexual (Generally does not feel, or does not focus relationships around, sexual attraction)
Cisgendered (Identifies as the sex they were assigned at birth)
Pansexual (Sexually attracted to who not what, doesn’t need a specific m/f sexual energy)
Vanilla (non kinky person or individual)
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