Anal 101- CCFF - 2022
~Master Varii
Anal sex, and many forms of anal play in general, have become so common you will find “how to articles in magazines at your local grocery store. One such article appeared in Cosmopolitan called “Everything You Could Possibly Need to Know About Anal Sex - your complete beginner’s guide.” Men and women alike find it enjoyable, and “tops” of all gender identifications love it for a variety of reasons!
Preparation
If you prepare for anal play, it is generally much more enjoyable for everyone. In fact, if you are willing to do the prep, and some anal training, most forms of anal play can be extremely pleasurable!
What should you have available before you begin:
· A fleet enema (or other means of anal cleansing like a shower shot)
· A great lube (lots of lube)
· Gloves
· Condoms
· Anal toys
· Wash cloths and hand towels
The two most common concerns:
1. Will there be a mess?
The number one concern by far for those considering anal play for the first time is the possibility of a mess. If you have had a bowel movement in the last couple of hours, and have no IBS issues, it is unlikely a mess will be created unless your anal play is very aggressive (LOL, and this is a 101 class). Your stool actually hangs out higher in your body, well above the anus and rectum in a section known as the sigmoid colon; however, a small disposable enema (or cleansing with a shower shot) prior will help everyone relax, and that’s important. Until you begin to explore more advanced anal play this is all the preparation that’s usually needed, so if you think anal play might be on the agenda, this is a simple step to take.
Like anything sex related, when you’re using lube, and swapping bodily fluids (we are going to assume intense orgasms for all) you may want an extra towel handy. If you want extra peace of mind, make sure the surface you and your partner play on is comfortable and washable.
2. Will it hurt?
The second most common concern is “Will it hurt?” (And not in a good way). Anal play should not be painful, IF you start slow, take the time to do adequate anal training, and use plenty of lube.
Anal training is important and can be lots of fun!!!
Start slow, and use lube especially formulated for anal play (not just a water based lube. Water based lubes are absorbed very quickly) … Use LOTS of lube!! While a vagina self- lubricates, your ass does not, which means any anal activity will be painful (and potentially harmful) if you don’t use adequate amounts of lube. Injuries from anal sex are possible but rare. Pain most commonly comes from over stretching (too much to fast) or inadequate amounts of lube or the wrong type of lube.
Before you even think about penetration with anything, remember the anal sphincter has a lot of nerves. Use this to your advantage. Use your fingers and toys to stimulate and relax yourself or your partner. Sexual excitement is ALWAYS a good thing and makes everything better as a general rule!
When you and your partner are ready, a gloved finger, then two, then a plug or other toy is a great way to proceed. Take your time and explore the different sensations, as well as prepare the ass to receive larger things like your cock (or dildos). This also opens the “door” (pun intended) to a world of possibilities, including covert play, and advanced anal toys that will light up your world! (Yes, I am enthusiastic about this form of play!) Be creative!!
Know the anatomy of the ass, and how to use this to your advantage! (Know the relation to the g spot in women, the prostate in men)
Stay away from numbing creams. If you use a numbing cream neither you or your partner can feel the need for more lube, or if you are proceeding too fast and not adequately stretched. This is usually the reason for rectal injury.
The emotional impact of anal play….
For some, anal play is just an intensely physically pleasurable form of play. For others it has a strong emotional impact. It often intensifies the power exchange “head space” on both sides of the slash!
Final thoughts
· Consent is always critical and not all kinks appeal to all people. If anal play is not your thing (as either the top or the bottom) then it is important to speak up. Remember PRICK (Personal Responsibility in Consensual Kink).
· In the beginning it is possible you might bleed a little (not much and not for long). Yes, this also includes pegging or the use of toys. If you experience a lot of bleeding seek medical attention; however, that is very rare. A little blood is usually insignificant and isn’t cause for alarm. It is usually associated with slight over stretching, or possibly because you had a hemorrhoid you may not have known about.
· Speak up. If you become silent or stoic it can be very difficult for a partner to judge what is too fast, too slow, when more lube is needed, if you are nervous, or if this activity is affecting you emotionally. Tops need feedback and not just the negative kind. We love positive feedback! Moans, and begging for more, make most dominants smile!
· Variety is the spice of life! Don’t be afraid to mix it up with additional types of stimulation. Clit, or cock and ball stimulation is usually welcome. Whatever fits YOUR dynamic, and your style of play can be incorporated. Anal play can be “the fetish”, or another tool in your vast toolbox.
· You do not want to introduce bacteria from the bowel into the vagina, so never insert a body part (finger or penis), or toy, that has been used in the ass into the vagina until it has been thoroughly cleaned.
· Gloves on fingers, and condoms on cocks and toys, are a good idea for anal play even though you may be monogamous. It makes clean up easier and adds additional protection from intestinal bacteria.
· Unprotected anal sex carries a higher risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) than many other sexual activities. Using a condom correctly will help protect you and your partner
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