my name is Phyenix. I am originally from NJ, and currently live in Cary, NC. I am honored and proud to be a member of House of Valor. I've been in the BDSM lifestyle on and off for over 20 years. Life happens, but it has always been important to me, and now I'm back to stay. Discovering this Leather House and Family has made me feel like I've found a home, and I'm excited about the journey ahead. I am a Switch. Both sides of the slash are important to me. I'm a strong, intelligent woman, and very much in control in most areas of my life both personally and professionally. I enjoy that dominant side of my personality, but that's not all of who I am. I also find enormous joy in submitting completely to someone who has earned my trust and devotion. To that person I can, and in fact crave, to give my submission. I was talking with Master Varii recently, trying to find the right words to explain how I felt and she said: "Leather is about accepting who you are, and having the courage to live it. You are a switch. You have a dominant personality, AND you also have a slave's heart". That does indeed describe me well. (smiling)